Obeying job search etiquette is one thing; following the unspoken rules of job searching is another. While most of us understand the importance of firm handshakes and flawless résumés, there is much to learn about what should and should not be said when looking for a job. For instance, one unspoken rule is to never ask for a job.
Even though you are expected to write résumés that clearly express why the employer should hire you, you can quickly cross a line by asking, “Will you hire me?” Some books, online resources and self-professed business “gurus” say this question is okay. In fact, to them it seems this question is a display of confidence. On the other hand, many recruiters believe asking for a job relays another message – one of desperation.
Instead of asking for a job, put yourself out there through networking, show off your best traits and anticipate someone offering you a job. This blog post lays out a simple strategy for how you can avoid asking for a job while letting people know you are looking.
Step 1: Identify Your Job Network
Hopefully you’ve been growing your network of professional contacts. As you dive deeper into your job search, you will need to exercise these connections. More so, you will need to identify which relationships might benefit your job search the most. Rather than looking at an individual and his or her title, it is important to consider who he is, what she is involved with, and who makes up their networks. If your networks feel a little weak or do not boast the types of professionals that will benefit your career, use online networking sites to identify people to contact as you move forward in your job search.
Step 2: Ask for Job References
Once you think of a couple people who can help place you in your next position, it is time to ask them a very important question. This question is not, “Are there any openings at your firm?” Instead, ask them to be your professional references.
Asking for a job reference opens the door to purposeful conversation. First, you can volunteer information about why you are leaving your current position and what type of position you are looking for. This is also the time when you can share your aspirations, goals and professional strengths. After mentioning this information, reconfirm that it will be okay to use them as references.
Unlike asking for a job, requesting a reference does not put your friend or acquaintance on the spot. It is a conversation starter that allows you to pitch yourself without making the moment awkward. More so, asking to use someone as a reference is a high compliment. Whoever you ask will likely walk away from the conversation feeling good and happy to help.
This approach is not as direct as asking, “Will you hire me?” It is, however, a highly effective way to let people know you are looking for a job while keeping your dignity intact. As you move forward in your job search, don’t ask for a job. Only ask for references.
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